微行动 – Do One Thing Different by Bill O’hanlon

抑郁、焦虑、社交恐惧、上瘾、进食障碍、失眠、亲密关系问题、性问题、肥胖、长期低落、消极、坏脾气、争吵，甚至打鼾、花粉过敏……你一直想去看心理医生，但最后只能自己扛着。

其实任何看似错综复杂的“大问题”，都能从一个小小的改变破局。

这是一套帮助普通人自我脱困的思维和行为方法。它以解决问题为最终目的——用易如反掌的行动，针对问题发生的条件，一次只改变一点点，逐渐松动问题，最终如蝴蝶效应般迎来改变。

你可以：

改变任何一个可以改变的环节

把新行为和固定模式关联起来

用故意为之反而失败的手段达到目的

找出事情转机时你的行为，刻意加在现有的困境里

你可以：

把感受和行为分离，接受前者，执行后者

接纳他人的自我，而批评他的行为

设想一个理想未来，倒推当下的行动

利用了结仪式走出过去的创伤阴影

“If you do one thing different, read this book! It is filled with practical, creative, effective, down-to-earth solutions to life’s challenging problems.”—Michele Weiner-Davis, author of Divorce Busting

The 20^th anniversary edition of a self-help classic, updated with a new preface: Tapping into widespread popular interest in highly effective, short-term therapeutic approaches to personal problems, author Bill O’Hanlon offers 10 Solution Keys to help you free yourself from “analysis paralysis” and quickly get unstuck from aggravating problems.

Tired of feeling stuck all the time when you’re trying to solve a problem or are facing conflict? Do you get easily flustered or angry when a negative confrontation arises? Have you ever wished you could communicate more easily with your spouse, kids, colleagues, or anyone else you have a difference in opinion with? In this newly updated edition of Do One Thing Different, Bill O’Hanlon will arm you with his ten easy Solution Keys so that you can move quickly from “stuck” to “smooth sailing” in all aspects of your life. Humorous, direct, and—most important of all—effective, these keys will help you change how you view and “do” your problems—from difficult relationships to enhancing sexuality and resolving conflicts of all kinds. The next time you have a problem, try one of these Solution Keys:

• Break Problem Patterns: Change any one of what you usually do in the problem situation by doing one thing different! Example: If you usually get angry and defensive, sit quietly and listen.
• Find and Use Solution Patterns: Import solutions from other situations where you felt competent. Examples: What do you know on the golf course that you forget when you get behind the wheel of your car? What do you say to resolve a problem with an angry customer that you don’t say to your angry partner?
• Shift Your Attention: Focus on what you would like to have happen rather than on what is happening.

Grounded in therapeutic practice, Do One Thing Different will put you back in control of your emotions and your life.

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