现代社会有很多休息方式，但是我们仍然觉得不够，觉得在现在生活压力之中身心疲惫。借鉴于“休息测试”中的突破性研究——克劳迪娅•哈蒙德（Claudia Hammond）与一批科学家，历史学家，心理学家，诗人和艺术家合作设计的一项调查，他们集中花了两年时间，对跨越135个不同国家的18,000人进行了调查和研究。哈蒙德分析了全球“休息测试”投票最为安心的10项休息方式，伴以真正有效的神经科学和心理学研究，穿插了历史上有关休息的各种方式和趣闻，为读者提供更好地休息的科学之方法。
通过这本民书，我们希望每个读者从心理的深层次都认识到自己，并且拿走处方或思考并找到他们如何科学使用时间的一种新方法，舒缓身心，治愈自己，应对当下的生活压力。
Today busyness has become a badge of honour. We want to say we’re busy, yet at the same time we feel exhausted. Instead we should start taking rest seriously as a method of self-care and this book can help us to work out how.
The Art of Rest draws on ground-breaking research Claudia Hammond collaborated on – ‘The Rest Test’ – the largest global survey into rest ever undertaken, which was completed by 18,000 people across 135 different countries. Much of value has been written about sleep, but rest is different; it is how we unwind, calm our minds and recharge our bodies. And, as the survey revealed, how much rest you get is directly linked to your sense of well-being.
Counting down through the top ten activities which people find most restful, Hammond explains why rest matters, examines the science behind the results to establish what really works and offers a roadmap for a new, more restful and balanced life.
“煤气灯操纵”是一种阴险的情感虐待和操纵形式，很难识别，甚至很难摆脱。这是因为它触发了我们内心无比恐惧的诱因——被遗弃；还触发了我们内心深切的被理解、被赏识和被爱的需求。
在这本开创性的著作中，拥有超过30年心理咨询经验的知名心理治疗师罗宾·斯特恩博士向你展示了煤气灯操纵的运作模式，从认清煤气灯操纵的三个阶段，到停止煤气灯操纵的五种方法，以及你该如何决定哪些关系还有救、哪些需要尽早离开的判断准则。只要提高警觉、保持坦诚、学会求助，你便可以立刻终止这些“毒性关系”。你也会发现，你值得对自己更好一点！
Are You Being Gaslighted?
Check for these telltale signs:
1. You constantly second-guess yourself.
2. You wonder, “Am I being too sensitive?” a dozen times a day.
3. You wonder frequently if you are a “good enough” girlfriend/wife/employee/friend/daughter.
4. You have trouble making simple decisions.
5. You think twice before bringing up innocent topics of conversation.
6. You frequently make excuses for your partner’s behavior to friends and family.
Your husband crosses the line in his flirtations with another woman at a dinner party. When you confront him, he asks you to stop being insecure and controlling. After a long argument, you apologize for giving him a hard time.
Your boss backed you on a project when you met privately in his office, and you went full steam ahead. But at a large gathering of staff—including yours—he suddenly changes his tune and publicly criticizes your poor judgment. When you tell him your concerns for how this will affect your authority, he tells you that the project was ill-conceived and you’ll have to be more careful in the future. You begin to question your competence.
Your mother belittles your clothes, your job, your friends, and your boyfriend. But instead of fighting back as your friends encourage you to do, you tell them that your mother is often right and that a mature person should be able to take a little criticism.
If you think things like this can’t happen to you, think again. Gaslighting is when someone wants you to do what you know you shouldn’t and to believe the unbelieveable. It can happen to you and it probably already has. Gaslighting is an insidious form of emotional abuse and manipulation that is difficult to recognize and even harder to break free from.
人这一辈子，无论多么不情愿，坏事时有发生。不快乐的童年阴影、亲人伴侣的情绪勒索、工作的压力、失去所爱、面对疾病和死亡……谁能够拉你一把，不要陷落深渊？其实，只有自己能够帮助自己，培养复原力是关键。
复原力，是我们面对逆境挫折时的一种重要能力：我们可以改变回应坏事的方式。心理学家里克•汉森博士在40余年的临床工作和教学经验中，发现人的大脑一辈子都会持续学习与改变。他把脑科学、积极心理学与正念冥想结合，提炼出收获幸福人生的12种实用工具，从厚植内心资源开始，强化安全感、满足感与连结感，引导读者建立心理韧性。
The culmination of New York Times bestselling author and respected psychologist Rick Hanson’s work, this is a scientifically grounded program for developing the 12 inner strengths for being resilient no matter what life throws at you.
Rick Hanson is known for his trademark blend of neuroscience, positive psychology, and contemplative practices. And now he’s showing the way to build the very foundation of well-being: Resilience. Today, people feel rattled by political and economic forces, and realize that they need to be able to rely on their own inner guidance systems in order to stay happy and calm. Not simply about weathering negative experiences, Resilient‘s groundbreaking program shows you how to harness the power of positive experiences in order to build an unshakeable core.
In this succinct guide to lasting happiness, Dr. Hanson has distilled 40 years of clinical work and teaching into the tools that actually work. Each of these 12 tools grows a key inner strength for resilience, allowing you to enter a positive cycle in which resilience creates a sense of well-being, which creates even more resilience, and so on. Developed from his incredibly popular online course called The Foundations of Well-Being, this essential book offers everything you need to shore up these powerful inner strengths. In his inimitable friendly, warm, straightforward tone, Dr. Hanson shares stories, support, and simple thoughts and actions that lead to deeply rooted change. Here is the groundwork that will allow you to meet life with a whole heart.
